Sunday, November 21, 2010
Marriage becoming obsolete
Why are people not wanting to get married? Maybe society has made it easier for folks not to get married. After all - who wants to be "tied" down for the rest of their life? Don't you want to be an independent person? Who wants to work through an argument when you can just walk away and move on to the next bump in the road with someone else?
Marriage is not easy. There is no quick fix. One can not be self centered and have the "me" attitude. It is a "we" attitude. Looking out for each others best interest, the "I got your back" attitude. Each person must give and take. Arguments are bound to happen. But what about the good times. The making up, sharing memories, raising children in a loving home, growing old together, looking back on your life at all the achievements and disappointments? Granted marriage is not always a bed of roses, but I think the benefits far outweigh the alternative.
When my husband and I were first married there was the honeymoon phase. Life was grand- I woke up to glitter and rainbows every day. Then came the adjustment phase- uh- not so great. Little things like leaving socks on the floor, not picking up his towel, leaving glasses on the counter drove me nuts- and I let him know all about it every chance I got. Sure I drove him nuts too, my anal ways about housekeeping- among lots of other things. But we worked through it. Both of us had to grow up and realize that we were each our own individual - but joined. It was not about who was right or wrong, it was about learning to adjust to each other.
Now we are in what I like to call the comfort stage. We are completely comfortable with each other. We know each other like the back of our hands. With one look or touch we almost always know what the other person is thinking or feeling. Sure we still have our arguments - but doesn't everyone?
One day we will reach the end of the road. We will not know when that time will come, or how it will happen. But we do know one thing. He will be there holding my hand as I take my journey into Heaven or I will be there holding his hand as he takes his journey. I will not have to worry about being abandoned and alone during my final walk for he with be with me every step of the way. We loved each other enough to make an eternal commitment to each other. People who think that marriage is becoming obsolete really don't know what they are missing.